When will you ever learn? At what point will you stop comparing yourself to others? I blame society, partially because of the standard that has been set. We live in an age where your worth is determined by a lot of superficial things. Your value is determined by the number of followers you have on Instagram, the amount of money you make, the car you drive, and much more. So really, I get it. There is no need for you to try to explain. You want to feel loved; you want to feel admired and respected. You saw someone on Instagram who has posted things that always make you a bit envious. You ponder on the numerous ways you may have went wrong on your own path.
Before you know it, your mind is polluted. It has become full of thoughts that question your value and ultimately who you are as an individual. We have all been there at one point or another. If you have ever watched SportsCenter on ESPN, you see a bunch of highlights from various games. You see the parts that ESPN deems as worthy or acceptable to show. Some highlights display the costly errors a team had, and others highlight all the good points of a team’s performance. Regardless of what you see, this is all filtered. They show you what they want their viewers to see. Why do they this? Because, they must give their supporters the type of content that will keep them coming back. This is the same thing with social media.
The next time that you get caught up in someone else’s highlight reel on social media, keep this in mind. They will show you what they want you to see. No one wants to put the bad times out there, they only want to put the good times. No one should be ridiculed for this though. Ultimately as human beings, we want to belong. We crave affection and attention. We want to stand out and have people cherish us. While you are looking at your neighbors’ grass, you are forgetting you need to water your own. This proves why people tend to say the grass may look greener on the other side, but this is not always the case. Often, we can lack self-assuredness. We dwell on what is going on around us and inadvertently lose our focus. Let’s put a stop to this.
I want to explore something with you. When cars were made, they were designed in a way that could provide protection. They were designed to help us get around more conveniently and get us to our destinations faster. In a car, we have a windshield, two side mirrors, a rear-view mirror and windows to look out of. To get to a destination, you must keep your eyes on what is in front of you. If you drive looking out of your other mirrors the entire time, you are destined to crash. This is something that is common sense to anybody. So, if this is the case, why are you still looking out of your rear-view mirror? Why have you allowed yourself to get distracted?
The goals that you plan to accomplish are not behind you; they are in front of you. When you take your eyes off the prize, bad things can happen. The rear view mirror in life is designed a bit differently. Your focus should be in front of you. Things do not always happen like this though, and that is completely fine. Every time you compare yourself to someone else, you lose focus. Every time you dwell on the past, you lose focus. Every single time that you lose focus, you knock yourself further off course. A goal that you were destined to reach in a few months could be pushed back due to your negligence. Stop looking at what’s behind you and stop looking at what is next to you. Align your vision to what is in front of you. The failures of yesterday prepare you for the success of tomorrow. On the other hand, these same failures of yesterday can stop you from reaching the success of tomorrow. You must know where you’ve been to know where you are going, but once you know where you are going, keep moving forward. The only time you should look back is to see how far you have come. Take this moment right now and reflect on the journey. Now take another moment and visualize what is ahead. The world is yours, and everything in it. Are you going to go get it?
-Karl Bourne, Lead Blog Writer